Pastors’ Hangover

Be A Man: Understanding Biblical Masculinity

This week on The Pastors’ Hangover, we’re diving into a topic that’s stirred a lot of curiosity—and controversy: Biblical masculinity. What does it really mean to be a man of God in today’s culture?
Pastor Daryl joins us fresh off a Father’s Day message as we unpack what Scripture actually says about manhood, emotion, strength, and identity—and what it doesn’t say.
We talk about the myths we’ve accepted from culture, the difference between physical strength and spiritual strength, and the tension men face between being tough and being tender.
If you've ever wrestled with the pressure to “man up” or wondered how to lead with both conviction and compassion, this episode is for you.
Join us as we challenge stereotypes, explore healthy masculinity, and look at how men can walk in freedom—not just expectations.

Deconstruction: Let’s Break It Down

Deconstructing has become a hot topic… but what does it actually mean?
In this episode, we’re talking about why so many people, especially young adults and college students, are rethinking Christianity. Is deconstruction a helpful process or a slippery slope?
Pastor Daryl shares a personal story about how he handled it when a church leader let him down, and we get real about how parents can respond when their kids start asking hard questions.
We dive into the role of church hurt, spiritual trauma, sin, and confusion when it comes to losing faith or rebuilding it. We also talk through how to have honest, respectful conversations with someone who says they’re deconstructing. Whether you’re going through a faith crisis or walking with someone who is, this episode is for you.
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In this episode:Daryl BlackHal MayerJeanna White

Letting Go: Leadership Lessons from Moses and Jethro

This week on The Pastors Hangover, we dive into the often-overlooked wisdom of Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, who shows up at just the right moment with the leadership lesson Moses needs: You can’t do it all.
If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your responsibilities at home, at work, in ministry, or just in life this conversation is for you.We talk about the dangers of trying to lead every parade, the weight of self-imposed stress, and how control can quietly rob us of peace. What does healthy delegation look like?
How do you know when to release something, and when to hold on? And how do you keep God at the center of your life instead of just another task on your checklist?
Join us as we explore the tension between obedience and burnout and why letting go may be the most spiritual thing a leader can do.
Last Weekend's Message:https://youtu.be/0s6w17wrAuo?feature=shared
In This Episode:Hal MayerDaryl BlackCraig Altman

Trauma: How Do I Break Free From This?

Trauma, Trauma Dumping, and Trauma Drama.. Let’s roll
Trauma doesn't always look like what we expect—and for many of us, it’s something we carry quietly for years. In this episode of The Pastors Hangover, we dive into the complex layers of trauma, asking honest questions like: Where does it come from? Is it inherited, learned, or the result of spiritual attack? How do strongholds form in our minds and hearts—and more importantly, how do we begin to break free from them?
Pastors explore how negative thought patterns can become prisons we live in without realizing it, and what it looks like to confront those patterns with honesty, faith, and practical tools. If you’ve ever struggled with lingering pain from your past, or you feel stuck in cycles you can’t explain, this episode offers hope, healing, and a reminder: you don’t have to stay stuck. Freedom is possible.
Last Weekend’s Message: https://youtu.be/dpNXmOHqlSs
In This Episode:Daryl BlackChris BonhamHal MayerMelissa Vicinanza

Mary and Martha Deep Dive

This week on The Pastors Hangover, we’re diving deep into the story of Mary and Martha—and what it reveals about our own lives, especially in seasons of waiting, striving, and motherhood.
Is it better to be serving or sitting? What does “resting at Jesus’ feet” look like when there’s laundry to fold and dishes to do? We talk about the emotional weight many moms carry, including mom guilt, and how to find peace when you feel stretched thin. Pastor Daryl also shares why “Motherhood is a ministry,” how to reframe guilt into grace, and how Mary’s posture in the Lazarus story still speaks to us today.
We even ask the big questions like: What qualifies a kid as raggedy? and Do you have to wait until Jesus leaves the house to do the dishes? Whether you're in a season of pressure or pause—this one’s for you.
 
Last Weekend's Message: https://youtu.be/CQ3dZ7IIjgw?si=pXEP6f_Clh59lPvd
 
In this Episode:
Kristin Bonham
Daryl Black
Hal Mayer
Melissa Vicinanza
 
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Spiritual Side of Mental Health

Mental health isn’t just emotional—it’s deeply spiritual. In this episode, we explore the hidden burdens people carry, and how many of us are emotionally “moving boxes” on our own. We talk about the spiritual roots of anxiety and fear—tracing all the way back to the Garden of Eden—and why surrendering to God can feel so hard when self-reliance feels safer. We dive into the three common temptations that derail our faith: despair (“I’ll never measure up”), immorality (chasing success or comfort instead of God), and morality (trying to earn our way to God without Him). If you’ve ever felt spiritually dry, stuck in anxiety, or alone in your mental health struggles, this episode is for you. You are not alone—and there is hope when you stop climbing and start surrendering.

Anxiety, Loneliness & the Burdens We Hide

We all carry things no one else sees—emotional baggage, silent struggles, and anxiety we try to manage alone. But what happens when the weight gets too heavy?
This week on Pastors Hangover, we dive into the unseen burdens people are moving every day and why loneliness has become the norm, not the exception.
Questions addressed: Can I love Jesus and still battle anxiety? What’s the difference between worry and a real mental health crisis? How can I identify the invisible burdens in my life.
We also unpack how COVID changed the way people connect (or don’t), why 88% of people struggling with anxiety don’t actually need medical treatment, but better life rhythms, and how faith plays a role in managing our mental and emotional health.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying too much, this episode is for you.

When Heaven Goes Quiet: Wrestling with God in the Waiting

In this episode of the Easter Hangover... What do you do when the miracle hasn't come yet and the tomb is still sealed? Dive into the silence of Silent Saturday—the day between the agony of the cross and the triumph of the resurrection. It's the space where grief, doubt, and hope collide.
 
We ask the hard questions: Why doesn’t God always speak when we need Him most? How do you hold onto faith when your prayers seem to echo into silence? And what if your life feels like a never-ending Saturday—waiting, wondering, wrestling? Join us as we talk about what God might be doing in the quiet, how to stay grounded in the in-between, and why the silence doesn’t mean He’s gone.
 
This one’s for anyone who has ever felt stuck between heartbreak and healing, or faith and fear.

Easter 2025: Rejection Builds Your Faith

What if rejection wasn’t a roadblock, but a refining fire? In this episode of Pastors’ Hangover, we dive into the uncomfortable but powerful reality that rejection isn’t the end of your calling—it might just be the beginning of deeper faith. From missed invitations to hard conversations, we unpack why being bold in your belief means risking a “no” and why every “no” can strengthen your “yes” to God. Whether you’ve been ghosted, ignored, or shut down, this one reminds you: your faith isn’t fragile—it’s being forged.

The God Who Fights for the Lost, the Found, and the Karens

On this week’s Pastors Hangover, we dive into the God who fights for the lost, the found, and even the Karens. We explore the powerful lessons from the parable of the prodigal son and how Jesus always stands in the gap, fighting for those who need grace the most. Love isn’t just about welcoming the return of the lost; it’s about actively pursuing them when they wander.
But when is it time to chase the lost and when do we wait? How do we respond when our outreach doesn’t seem to get a response? Plus, we tackle the use of modern terms like "Karen" in the pulpit—does it add value to the message, or distract from the truth?
We also address a hot topic: the controversial story in John 8. Is it truly biblical, or should it be questioned? If you're grappling with forgiveness, evangelism, or how to love in a broken world, this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss.
Last Weekend's Message: https://youtu.be/n525yVB4HX0?feature=shared
In This Episode:Hal MayerMelissa VicinanzaDaryl BlackCraig Altman